Suddenly
outside our restaurant window, a great throng of people streamed
past. Droves of people marched down the middle
of the street, children, dogs, moms, dads, grandparents, people in wheelchairs,
more came and more. Many held placards.
It was a #protest march against #school shootings.
I wanted
to support those dear people who wanted a peaceful environment for their
children. They wanted their children safe, they wanted their schools safe. So I
waved, and they waved back. Pretty soon I felt left out; I wanted to be out
there marching with them—scenes of the 60’s flashed through my head.
However, school shootings isn’t a gun problem. It’s a
psychiatric one.
Stiffer
gun control, arming teachers, blaming the NRA, the government, that seemed to
be the focus, and I questioned it. But then, if there are no guns no one would
be killed or injured by one.
It’s a
complex issue.
When I was
growing up in our little provincial town, a boy used a metal pipe to kill a little
girl camping out in her own yard. It isn’t all about guns. It’s demented
people. He wanted to see a naked girl.
Studies
have shown that a majority of school shooters are either on drugs or are withdrawing
from them.
Yet, I
didn’t see any placards protesting the use of drugs to medicate children.
Shooters have
often been abused at home and at school. Shooters often don’t get with the
school’s program, or fit into the schoolyard. The cafeteria is probably a
horror. If a student is so crazed that he wants to shoot up the school and the people
in it, something is seriously broken.
It the
shooter is an adult it is an act of terrorism. (That’s broken too.)
Once a
person feels helpless, anger and resentment build, they are hurt and want to
hurt others. Probably if that boy who became a shooter had asked the girl he
just shot in the head for a date, she would have put her heel in his shoe. But
then since the deranged kid already felt he was a loser, he wouldn’t ask.
By the
time a shooter has decided to do the deed, they are willing to lose their own
life in the process.
That’s
rock bottom.
It is
hard for someone who values their life to communicate with one who doesn’t value
theirs.
Yet, we want
out children safe. We do not tolerate violence.
What to
do?
We know
that mental distress can cause mental illness, continual stimulation of
cortisol, and all that brain chemistry I don’t know about can totally screw up
a person.
And then
there is body chemistry, chemical imbalance, inadequate diet and a constant
influx of adrenaline that can instigate thrill, fight or flight—the issue is complex.
End
result: We have a person society proclaims to be mentally ill.
Drug
them.
Instead
of arming the teachers with guns, what about arming them with knowledge. Teach
them to notice and care about the child who is sullen, angry, lacking in
motivation, getting poor grades and doesn’t care. In the past we shamed them,
sent them to the principals' office, or expelled them from school.
In my grade
school, there was a boy that if something was out of whack in the classroom, the
teacher blamed him, and she was usually right. A man teacher in our fifty grade
spanked him in front of the class on a regular basis. I feared that he would
end up in jail, but I have seen him at my high school reunion, and he is cool.
A nice guy.
This kid
and I were once neighbors, and he called me on the phone before our high school
reunion encouraging (begging) me to come. Without that call, I probably wouldn’t
have gone, and I wouldn’t have found out how cool he had become.
Maybe we
had more resilience in those days. I don’t believe anyone entertained the idea
of taking a gun to school. Golly, we got busted for chewing gum.
I know
that now the teachers would label my friend as hyperactive. He was a skinny
little kid with lots of energy.
I’m happy
they didn’t ruin him. I do believe that he had an outrageous sense of humor—perhaps
that saved him.
Educators
and society love the students who excel in their studies. They get all A’s; they are popular, but what
about the ones labeled as Hyperactive, Attention deficient, or Bullies?
Drug
them.
If you
think tough kids don’t want love, ask why they join gangs.
I know,
getting to a sullen, depressed, rude, or quiet child takes Herculean effort.
It’s easier to drug them.
My
Grandson can deliver a dissertation while circling the room—some children learn
better while moving, especially boys.
Yes, I
know its complex, and some might say that there will always be crazies, but
what if we weren’t so anxious to medicate a Hyperactive child, an attention
deficit child, a loner, a misfit, or a bully?
My take
on schools is that students can learn the essentials on reading writing arithmetic,
oh yes, biology, physics music and art, all that, in a couple of hours a day.
Perhaps a better use of their time would be learning how to be a human being,
but then, that is a skill few of us understand.
After my
rant on the psychological aspects of gun shootings, I looked online and found
that gun control in other countries does reduce gun deaths. And you know that in
Britain, even the policemen do not carry guns.
Gun-related
deaths drop in all Europen countries who have implemented gun control. Guns are
virtually absent in Japan.
In
Germany it's different, there are more guns in households, and the lowest percentage
of gun-related deaths.
A German
person must undergo psychological testing to own a gun.
Imagine.
To the student who commented that at least she felt that people cared.
Yes, we care!
Here on
this blog, I have struggled with wanting this page to be a positive place to
sit. I want it to be motivational. I want people to go for their dream and to
believe that it is possible to obtain that dream. Yet, at other times something
impacts me like that demonstration outside my window that I didn’t even know Eugene
Oregon had planned.
Sometimes
we just have to stand up.
Whoops, I stood up and the cat fell off my lap.
P.S. In Jakob the Liar,
a 1999 movie, Robin Williams (Jakob) instills hope in a tiny Polish village by
saying (lying) about a hidden radio that gives news that the German war is faltering.
While the “Authorities,” aka Nazis, have guns, Jacob does not. It appears that
if he had had a gun, he might have survived.
Abuse of power.
Not good.
And probably one reason Americans are so adamant about
holding onto their guns.
No child should ever have to ask this question: